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Motivation or Manipulation: Which One Are You Using?

In summary, Zig Ziglar's article discusses the difference between motivation and manipulation and how leaders and motivators should focus on the benefits their team will receive rather than themselves.
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This is an article from Zig Ziglar's weekly newsletter. Considering some of the discussions we've had here about the way to motivate our teams and the complaints some have had about feeling manipulated or pressured by their upline, I thought it entirely appropriate.

Zig On…Motivation, Manipulation And Leadership
By Zig Ziglar

The word “motivation” is one that is often confused with “manipulation.” Motivation occurs when you persuade someone to take an action in their own best interests. Things like people preparing their homework, accepting responsibility for their performance and finishing their education, are the result of motivation. Manipulation is persuading someone to take an action which is primarily for your benefit. Things like selling an inferior product at an inflated price or working people overtime with no extra pay are examples of manipulation. Manipulation self-destructs the individual doing the manipulating. Word gets out on manipulators and people grow less and less likely to respond in a positive manner to their manipulation. Productivity declines. Leadership occurs when you persuade a person to take an action which is in your mutual best interests. Eisenhower said that leadership was the ability to persuade someone to do what you wanted them to do because they wanted to do it. When that happens, performance improves, productivity increases, and both parties win.

Comparing motivation to manipulation is like comparing kindness to deceit. The difference is the intent of the person. Motivation will cause people to act out of free choice and desire, while manipulation often results in forced compliance. One is ethical and long-lasting; the other is unethical and temporary.

Carlisle said, “A great man shows his greatness by the way he treats the little man.” The value you place on people determines whether you are a motivator or a manipulator of people. Motivation is moving together for mutual advantage. Manipulation is persuading or even subtly coercing someone to do something so that you win and they lose. With the motivator everybody wins; with the manipulator, only the manipulator wins. And to that I might add that the victory is temporary and the price is prohibitive. Leaders and motivators are winners, manipulators are losers who produce resentment and discord. Think about it. Become a motivator, not a manipulator, and I’ll SEE YOU AT THE TOP!

Zig Ziglar is known as America’s motivator. He is the author of 29 books and numerous audio and video recordings. He brings his message of hope to thousands on the stages at the Get Motivated Seminars. See him in action!
 
Rae that is so cool! I am getting a chance to go to a motivational session here in Milwaukee, WI. My understanding is that Zig and his daughter will be there! I can't wait!
 
Great article. Thanks.
 
Wow Rae. That is so true. I have found, too, that when I focus on what my host will get out of the show, not me, I am more successful.
 
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pampered1224 said:
Rae that is so cool! I am getting a chance to go to a motivational session here in Milwaukee, WI. My understanding is that Zig and his daughter will be there! I can't wait!

Very cool. Zig Ziglar's stuff is always practical and usable.
 
Cathy Cocozzella quoted this in her training call today!
 

Related to Motivation or Manipulation: Which One Are You Using?

What is the difference between motivation and manipulation?

Motivation is the act of encouraging or inspiring someone to take action towards a desired goal. It involves positive and ethical methods such as providing support, setting achievable goals, and offering rewards. Manipulation, on the other hand, involves using deceitful or unethical tactics to influence someone's behavior or actions for personal gain.

How can I tell if I am being motivated or manipulated?

There are a few key differences between motivation and manipulation that can help you determine which one you are experiencing. Motivation focuses on empowering and encouraging individuals to take positive actions, while manipulation often involves using fear, guilt, or other negative emotions to control someone's behavior. Additionally, motivation usually involves clear and transparent communication, while manipulation may involve hidden agendas or ulterior motives.

Can motivation ever turn into manipulation?

While motivation and manipulation are two distinct concepts, they can sometimes overlap. For example, a manager may use motivational tactics to encourage their employees to meet a deadline, but if they start using threats or manipulation to achieve the same goal, it can cross into the realm of manipulation. It's important to be aware of the tactics being used and to speak up if you feel uncomfortable or manipulated.

How can I motivate someone without resorting to manipulation?

Motivation is most effective when it is based on positive and genuine intentions. Some ways to motivate others without using manipulation tactics include setting clear and achievable goals, providing positive reinforcement and recognition, and offering support and resources to help individuals reach their goals. It's also important to communicate openly and transparently, and to respect others' boundaries and choices.

What should I do if I feel like I am being manipulated?

If you feel like you are being manipulated, it's important to speak up and address the issue. You can calmly and assertively communicate your boundaries and express how you feel about the situation. It may also be helpful to seek support from a trusted friend or colleague, or to involve a mediator or HR representative if necessary. Remember, you have the right to set boundaries and to be treated with respect and fairness in any situation.

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